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How do I deal with my husband who is selfish and obsessed with material things?

I don’t know if I should be using this venue, but I really need some advice. My husband and i have 2 children and he is totally obsessed with his “stuff.” His stereo equipment, his toys (he has comics, collectibles, cd’s, dvd’s, antiques, his car etc.) Whenever one of the kids touch his “stuff” he gets angry and yells that he can’t have anything nice. To top that off, he wants the kids cut off from half of the house so he can have his own private space. Right now we’re looking for a house and we’ve been fighting over this issue. We’ve fought so much that I don’t feel the same for him. It’s hard for me to get close to him and we’ve been snippy towards each other. He turns it around to make me look like the bad one, I’m starting to think I am . Counseling hasn’t worked in the past. I guess I knew he liked his “stuff” before i married him, but I didn’t think it would be this bad. I’m thinking of leaving him. Advice? We’ve been married for 8 yrs.

Sadly, it sounds like you have an extra child instead of a husband. I am curious if he was raised like that… to not touch his parents stuff, or if this is just some obsession of his own making.

I have a family member who went through a similer problem with her husband. It wasn’t about not allowing their child to touch his stuff………. it was about him over spending on stereo’s, DVD’s, cd’s, etc….. It finally got to the point where he had to be put on an allowance!

Cutting off half the house isn’t the answer. What he should do is store his collectables in such a way that they can’t be messed with. Comics can go in a filing cabinet that can be locked, as an example. But I’m also reminded of Dr Spock (not that I agreed with all his writing… but…) who wrote that you don’t remove things from a child’s reach, but rather, teach the child to respect the more fragile stuff and to not touch them without permission.

I’d remind him that he is your partner and that family should come before his possesions. If he is going to get all dramatic about how he can’t have nice things… then tell him that he needs to cut down on the things till the kids are older. That will solve that problem! Or he can work out that every time he buys something for himself, he has to buy something for the kids! heh heh

Mostly though, I’d remind him that he can collect things for the rest of his life, but his kids will only be kids for a relatively short period of time. Rather than getting an ulcer worrying about his “stuff” he needs to get the bug out of his butt and enjoy the time that he has with them NOW, versus when they are older and don’t have the foundation for a good relationship with him like they should.

Good luck to you and God bless.

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